It is necessary to find out how much this person is disposed to have a marriage, and is marriage possible for him?
This is due to the analysis of the general human Dharma.
We may have a desire to marry for various reasons: from a feeling of loneliness and following the tradition “because everyone does it”, from a conscious desire to fulfill our life duty (Dharma), because we are passionate about some person or just experiencing a strong desire to enjoy our feelings and it does not matter to us what kind of partner will be.
Sometimes, obeying only the strong dictates of his feelings, a man thoughtlessly enters into a relationship, then disappointment follows, he breaks up with a partner and seeks a new relationship. A whole chain of negative consequences arises: the frustrated “former partners” who interfere in our future relationships, children without a father, multiple problems of the material, moral and spiritual plan.
Since in modern godless civilization the desire to uncontrollably satisfy one’s feelings is paramount, one has to deal with such situations more and more often. This is a natural sign of the destruction of the Dharma, or what is called adharma.
adharmabhibhavat krsna pradusyanti kula-striyah
strisu dushtasu varsneyya jayate varna-sankarah
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"When unbelief prevails in the family, O Krishna, the women of this family are corrupted, and the degradation of women, O descendant of Vrishni, leads to unwanted offspring." (BG 1.40) "
Thus, the main danger posed by relationships based only on lust is Varna-sankara or the birth of unfortunate, unhappy generations of people with destroyed Dharma. This is because the fate of the child depends entirely on the state of mind of the parents at the time of conception.
If conception happened by chance, the parents were not going to have children and were even afraid of this, then depending on the depth and strength of the desecration of this desire, a person is born with negative indicators in the horoscope, or in other words, a Soul is involved, connected by negative karma with its parents.
If the parents had a strong reluctance in their minds to have children, a child may be born who will not be able to produce offspring himself or who has difficulties with conceiving and having children. If a mother at the time of conception was disappointed with her marriage, in her mind there was a strong desire to be independent and independent, then her daughter or son may have very weak indicators for marriage in the horoscope.
If there was only lust in the minds of both parents, then their child will be born with indicators of strong lust and weak Dharma.
This is the gradual degradation of mankind, and even modern materialistic scientists, psychologists, and sociologists are already talking about the growing tendency to destroy the institution of marriage and the family in the future. Thus, when analyzing marriage in a horoscope, we must first of all take into account that most likely we are already dealing with Varna - sankara, that is, a person with already destroyed Dharma, and we cannot use the usual methods for determining compatibility without first analyzing individual karma of personality.
Sanjay Rath says: “Dharma is considered from the ninth house, and the fractional card, which divides the sign into 9 parts, is called Navamsha. Parashara Muni advises us to research this fractional map (Navamsha) of the spouse or spouse, as it shows the fruits and achievements of the Dharma.
Thus, the 11th sign from the 9th house is the 7th house, which indicates an increase in the Dharma and the 12th sign from the 9th house is the 8th house, which indicates the destruction or decrease of the Dharma. Thus, marriage shows the growth of the Dharma, while widowhood symbolizes the destruction of the Dharma. During the Hindu wedding, the son-in-law is regarded as Vishnu, since his arrival in the family leads to an increase in the Dharma. ” Thus, success in marriage depends not only on how much a person is determined to follow the Dharma, but also on what kind of karma we are dealing with. Due to sinful acts and desires in past births, we can deal with destiny designed to atone for past sinful activities, or to correct our sinful impulses, and therefore must go through suffering in relation to marriage and partnership in this incarnation.
These sufferings can be either fatal, unchangeable atonement, or less fatal, that is, what can be corrected in this incarnation by changing the qualities of our subtle body, that is, our mood.
This raises the question of the varnasrama system, the restoration of which can help humanity as a whole. Four ashrams and four ayans.
There are 4 ashrams or social conditions of a person, which are closely related to the 4 main goals of human embodiment: Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha.
1 ashram - before marriage, when a person grows and learns how to follow the Dharma correctly, it is called brahmacharya. This ashram recommends celibacy, or abstinence from sexual relations. At a young age, a person is busy learning how to control his feelings, on the basis of revealed scriptures. This is important for both male and female births. Also at this age, a person receives a vocational education, which later will help him to work productively, supporting his family and benefiting society as a whole.
At this stage, observance of celibacy helps a person to direct his life energy upward and use it for better brain function, which is very important in the learning process.
However, at the stage of obtaining education, it is necessary to take into account the peculiarities of female birth. In the male birth, obtaining a vocational education is, of course, very important, since the duty of a man is closely related to professional activity and public service. But in the female birth for many years and the enormous forces spent on obtaining education can complicate her marriage in the future. 28-30 years old is a suitable age for marriage in the male birth, but not very favorable for marriage in the female embodiment, a woman should give birth to children, and it is better if this happens in childbearing age.
Due to complete ignorance, 30-40 year old women with excellent education, a successful career and without marriage and children are increasingly found in our time. Sometimes this is due to the general karma of the person, since such a woman has no indicators for marriage and childbirth, and her birth is intended for social activities. But sometimes this happens because of one’s own stupidity, misunderstanding of one’s destiny, or because of the arbitrariness of parents who want their daughter to “get a higher education”. Realization in the professional sphere inevitably makes a woman more independent, independent, which also does not contribute to happiness in marriage, and even more enslaves a woman, depriving her of peace, happiness and good luck.
Thus, it is necessary to carefully analyze the Dharma of a woman in this incarnation before deciding whether to receive an education. Of course, another question is that sometimes women go to an educational institution to find a “good groom”, but in this case the decision on marriage has already been made, and such a woman will not spend her energy too much on training, and will not miss the main thing for herself: birth good children. Be that as it may, the house of Dharma for male birth is 9, for female birth is 5. Therefore, in female birth it is necessary to analyze first of all the 5th house in order to establish itself correctly in the Dharma.
Thus, first of all, it is necessary to analyze the houses of Dharma 1-5-9 and navamsa, as the fruits and achievements of the Dharma.
2 ashram - grhastha, associated with artha, financial support and nutrition. Most often, it is difficult to establish oneself correctly in this ashram for those who regard marriage as an institution of “receiving pleasure” or as a Kama. If a person marries, only to enjoy his feelings, he will inevitably expect disappointment.
It should be remembered that the Dharma is the basis of everything, Artha supports the Dharma, and Kama and Moksha come only as a result, as a result of Dharma and Artha.
“Striving for artha, let him follow the path of high Dharma, striving for kama through artha, and only the path of Kama does not lead to anything else. After all, Kama cannot even give birth to another Kama as a fruit, because the eaten fruit does not regenerate, and only the smell and coals remain from the burned log. ”
Mahabharata. Aranyaka Parva 28-32
When a person has decided on his Dharma, and decided that his duty is to be a family man, entering into marriage, he should first of all think about Artha, or how he will support his family and also benefit society as a whole. Artha houses: 2-10-6, the weakness of these houses does not allow a person to support a family and is often the reason for the destruction of marriage.
It is also necessary to take into account the difference between male and female births. Traditionally, and in accordance with natural law, the situation is when a man is responsible for the external side of maintaining the family, and a woman for the internal. In other words: a man works and brings money into the house, and the woman correctly uses this money to maintain the house.
Ramana Maharishi says: “The greatness of a woman’s life is infinite, her status is immeasurable, her abilities are unlimited, her role is divine. She plays the role of the keeper, creator and continuer of life. She is the center from which peace comes. Woman is balance - the balance of all Nature. She takes on all the stress of her husband and her children and prevents him from spreading further. Healing is in the arms of the mother. She heals the soul of a child. Her purpose is to ensure that the man goes to a higher consciousness. Achievements of a man in his business and in any field of activity depend mainly on the state of his mind. The state of mind of a man to a large extent depends on the state of affairs at his home. If he is happy at home, then he goes to work with ease and tranquility. If he is unhappy at home, his mind is restless, and the results of his work will never be satisfactory. ”
Thus, the strong 10th house in the male horoscope indicates a good potential to support the family and be responsible for the external side of life. But a woman’s strong 10th house, on the contrary, may indicate her tendency to use her energy outside the family, and instead of supporting her spouse and children, support her boss, her business and live an active external life. The 10th house, which is 4 of the 7th and shows the “Sukha” or happiness and satisfaction from marriage. Pests in the 10th house, especially in the female horoscope, indicate difficulties in marriage, since for the female Dharma 10 is also 6 out of 5, and may indicate problems with children. A woman who spends all her time at work can neither support her husband. Nor give happiness to their children.
Also important in this regard is the 2nd house, which is 8 of the 7th, and indicates the end of the marriage.
Since the division of the sign by 2 is the Chora, which shows the wealth of a person, it is important to consider this fractional map as well to determine the relationship between the spouses. If in the female card many male planets occupy the Solar Choir, and in the male card many male planets occupy the Moon, you can be sure: in this marriage, the burden of financial support will fall on the woman, and the man will be more passive in this regard. Such a marriage is possible only if it satisfies both spouses. Particularly important is the location of the Sun in the sunny Choir for an indicator of a more active financial partner.
3 - ashram, Vanaprastha. This ashram means partial renunciation and is associated with Kama, the satisfaction that comes as a result of the performance of the Dharma and Artha. Houses of Kama 3-7-11.
When we consider the 7th house, then, first of all, we analyze whether the person will receive satisfaction from harmonious partnerships. Or in other words, will Kama be obtained as a result of Dharma and Artha?
Sometimes a person thinks: it is important to get married / get married, and happiness is already guaranteed. It means striving for Kama. But most often it happens that a person is disappointed as a result of marriage. This happens for two reasons: 1) he did not fulfill the Dharma of marriage and did not provide its support to Artha, but only sought to enjoy at the expense of the other 2) his Dharma is not connected with marriage and partnerships.
The age of vanaprastha is usually associated with reaching the age of 50, when a person raised children, gained recognition in work, and receives the fruits of a worthy life.
At this age, a gradual departure from work is recommended and a person is freed up time to achieve the true goal of life: moving along the path to freeing material suffering from captivity. This is the path that a person walks in the case of a strong Dharma, a pious lifestyle, and a gradual transition from an ashram to an ashram. It is natural for a person who has lived his life worthily to become pacified in adulthood and begin to think about eternal values, God and liberation.
However, as we have already noticed, in our time we are increasingly dealing with the destroyed or weakened Dharma, and at the same time with the affected houses of Kama. Most often, the defeat occurs due to the location of the control planets in the Dusthans: 6-8-12 houses.
Of these, the most “malicious” are 8 and 12 houses. Here one thing needs to be understood: where pleasure ends, two paths begin: the path of suffering and the path of liberation from suffering. Dusthana 8 and 12 houses are also houses of moksha, or final liberation.
It is at the Kama level that a choice is made between material lust and Divine Love.
Our prarabha may indicate that we are “freed” from the need to fulfill our duty to our descendants, that is, to marry and have children, and our stay in this world is coming to an end.
Most often, a person is not able to perform his Dharma for reasons beyond his control in this incarnation, but undoubtedly related to his own activity in past births.
The accumulated sinful activity leads to the collapse of all aspects of material life, and this birth may be the last before falling into the lower worlds. But if the karma of renunciation is accumulated, or rather, we are saved from many consequences of sinful and pious activities due to spiritual progress in the past, then this birth may be the last before going beyond this world of suffering into a spiritual existence.
If a person has strong indicators of the absence of marriage and children - this is the first sign that a person should think about renunciation as early as possible, not expecting old age.
Attempts to “overcome karma” with sinful methods, for example, using magic, or other methods of violence against living beings, will inevitably lead to even greater decline and painful redemption in the future. But the Lord gives a chance to everyone, even the most fallen in this world, to overcome the consequences of their sinful acts by pious activities, voluntary tapasya and austerities, which should be performed only on the basis of spiritual knowledge, in the higher gunas.
janma karma ca me divyam evam yo vetti tattvatah tyaktva deham punar janma naiti mam eti so 'rjuna vita-raga-bhaya-krodha man-maya mam upashrtah bahavo gyana-tapasa puta mad-bhavam agatah
One who knows the transcendental nature of My appearance and my activities, leaving this body, is not born again in this material world, but enters into My eternal abode, O Arjuna. Freed from attachment, fear and anger, completely immersed in Me and finding in Me the only refuge, many, many people in the past, having known Me, have been purified and have gained transcendental love for Me (BG 4.9, 10). yasya sarve samarambhah kama-sankalpa-varjitah gyanagni-dagdha-karmam there ahuh panditam budhah He is considered to have full knowledge, who is free from desire for sense gratification. The sages say that the consequences of his activity are burned by the fire of perfect knowledge. (B.G. 4.19)
Thus, even a struck horoscope is not a cause for concern, and a person who realizes his true nature can become satisfied by gaining Love for God at any stage of his life, regardless of the nature of karma and the body in which he is located. At the level of vanaprastha, satisfaction and Kama do not come if a person does not have the fullness of spiritual knowledge, and a person even in adulthood does not stop searching for sensual pleasures.
That is why older people, most often in our time, do not become attractive with their wisdom and pacification, but represent a miserable sight, becoming more and more like lustful old monkeys, if they consider until the end of life that the enjoyment of their material feelings, the main goal of human birth.
4 ashram sannyasa - full renunciation corresponds to Moksha, liberation. This topic does not directly relate to the topic of marriage, so it will not be considered in detail. But it should be noted that a lot of yogis pointing to parivraja, renunciation, gives a person a chance to achieve renunciation in this embodiment, and you need to think: is it worth such a person to spend fruitless efforts to achieve a difficult goal: marriage?
